Ahmad became engaged to Maryam. They loved each other. They had a good income, and a festive wedding. What an ideal marriage!
Unfortunately, after five years, they no longer loved each other. The romance was gone. Only a vacuum remained, and they divorced!
Why? Every marriage faces problems. A Muslim’s marriage doesn’t have to end in divorce! How to have a lasting Muslim marriage is a key concern!
Muslim husbands must keep three promises in order to have a lasting marriage.
#1: Appreciate Your Wife as an Equal Partner
Wives are generally considered weak and underprivileged. Some religious teachings support this idea. “Allah made men to excel women. Men are superior to women and are better than women” (Qs 4:34).
However, every sociological study has proven that in general, women exceed men. Therefore, husbands should get rid of the false idea above. Husbands shouldn’t undervalue or insult their wives!
#2: Love Only Your Wife
If a husband has an affair with another women, it hurts his wife. Addiction to pornography makes a husband unloyal to his wife mentally. Polygamy is even more hurtful, even if his religion allows him to do so. “… Marry such women as seem good to you, two and three and four …” (Qs 4:3).
A husband who loves his wife must rid polygamy from his mind. Promise your wife that you will not have a second wife.
#3: Always Treat Your Wife Lovingly
There will always be some conflict in a marriage. Spouses will disagree on finances, how to raise children, etc. These disputes sometimes cause a husband to beat his wife.
This is the wrong thing to do, even though the Quran allows it. “Admonish women who disobey … beat them” (Qs 4:34). As a Muslim man, promise not to hurt your wife, verbally or physically.
The Injil Teaches Muslims and Christians How to Treat Their Wives:
1. Love, take care of, and sacrifice for her (Ephesians 5:25).
2. Respect her (I Peter 3:7).
3. Don’t treat her harshly (Colossians 3:19).
4. Don’t deprive her of sex (I Corinthians 7:3-5).
5. Always be faithful, stay away from adultery (Hebrews 13:4).
6. Always be united as one (Matthew 19:5).
Are you a Muslim? Do you love your wife? Do you want to make her happy? The secret is to fulfill the three promises above. (1) Respect her and value her; (2) Love only her; (3) Do not be harsh, but be tender toward her.
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1. How to have a lasting Muslim marriage – Do you agree that, to do this, a husband must respect his wife and not underestimate her? Why?
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3. What do you think about a husband who is harsh with and/or strikes his wife?
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The above mentioned about the Quran is wrong. Even nowadays Muslims don’t believe like that anymore, because the versus needs interpretation, referring to its historical backgrounds.
The reality in Islam is completely different with the biased views that is raised here.
Unfortunately today Muslims have no enough media to raise their voice loud. Please refer to reality not perverted definition of Islam and Quran.
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Dear Ali,
Thank you for your comment. We appreciate your point of view. Maybe you could give an explanation the interpretation nowadays. Also, is the interpretation is still according to the Quran?
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1. Men are honoured over women because men earn and spend their own money, so it’s not like women are inferior.
2. Having four wives is better than having ten girlfriends. Polygamy is allowed but not mandatory.
3. Beating wife is allowed only in a certain situation, but the beating must be mild. It’s more of warning than beating.
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Someone,
Why did Muhammad disobey Allah by having more than four wives when Quran 4:3 states that a man can have up to four wives? In reality, men are allowed to beat women as the men please as written in Quran 4:34.
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Injil wasn’t revealed to Muhammad neither for Muslims. It was revealed to the Prophet Isa but certainly not on Jesus.
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Dear Mabel,
The Quran writes that the Bible is the Book of Truth (Sura 3:3-4). Jesus, distinguished hereafter, is the perfect Messiah/Savior (Sura 3:45) because He is the Pure Spirit of God (Sura 2:87), the guidance and the light for the righteous (Sura 5:46) and knows the Judgement Day (Sura 43:61-62). Anyone who rejects the faith in Jesus is deceived by Satan and will suffer severe punishment as written in the Quran (Sura 3:3-4, 43:61-62). Pray to the living God to show you the truth.
“He has sent down upon you, [O Muhammad], the Book in truth, confirming what was before it. And He revealed the Torah and the Gospel. Before, as guidance for the people. And He revealed the Qur’an. Indeed, those who disbelieve in the verses of Allah will have a severe punishment, and Allah is exalted in Might, the Owner of Retribution.” (Sura 3:3-4)
“[And mention] when the angels said, “O Mary, indeed Allah gives you good tidings of a word from Him, whose name will be the Messiah, Jesus, the son of Mary – distinguished in this world and the Hereafter and among those brought near [to Allah].” (Sura 3:45)
“And We sent, following in their footsteps, Jesus, the son of Mary, confirming that which came before him in the Torah; and We gave him the Gospel, in which was guidance and light and confirming that which preceded it of the Torah as guidance and instruction for the righteous” (Sura 5:46)
Believe on the Lord Jesus as your God and Savior who loves you and died for your sin.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6 KJV)
“But that ye may know that the Son of man hath power on earth to forgive sins,” (Mark 2:10 KJV)
“that if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. For the scripture saith, Whosoever believeth on him shall not be ashamed.” (Romans 10:9-11 KJV)